Booking an escort as a couple: frequently asked questions

Frequently asked questions about booking a high class escort as a couple

The decision to book a high class escort as a couple is not one you make overnight. Nor should it be. It requires preparation on both a practical and emotional level. From conversations about expectations and desires to choosing the right escort and finding a date that works for both of you. All of these preparations are part of the anticipation, as you build up to the booking together.

The preparations do not need to be complicated, but they do require openness and honesty. Towards yourself, towards each other and towards us. To help you take the first steps, we have put together a number of frequently asked questions that couples often ask themselves and our high class escort service. No question is too strange, so if you have any questions that are not answered on our website, please do not hesitate to get in touch.

Questions to ask yourself and each other as a couple booking an escort

What are we looking for in this experience? Excitement, connection, exploring a fantasy, curiosity — all of these are valid reasons. But be honest with each other about your answer. If one of you sees this as an adventure and the other as a way to repair something in the relationship, that conversation needs to happen first. An escort is not a therapist, and a booking will not fix what is already off balance. When both of you are booking out of curiosity and mutual desire, however, this can add something truly special to your intimate connection.

How solid and stable does our relationship feel right now? Unspoken tensions, jealousy or trust issues tend to grow in a situation like this, not diminish. You do not need a perfect relationship, but you do need a stable foundation to fall back on if the evening brings up unexpected emotions. The couples who are most satisfied afterwards are almost always those who spoke openly with each other beforehand about what they hope for, what they fear and how they want to handle both.

What is absolutely okay and what is absolutely not? Discuss this well before the booking with the high class escort, not on the evening itself. Think carefully about what feels right and what is a firm boundary, for yourself and for your partner when you see them being intimate with someone else. Some couples want the escort to focus on a lesbian experience for the woman. Others prefer the attention to be divided equally, or explicitly want the escort not to have penetrative sex with the male partner. Some couples want sex lessons from the escort, while others are interested in BDSM or a Pornstar Experience. So many people, so many wishes. The more clearly you communicate yours, the better your escort can prepare.

How do we think it will feel to see each other being intimate with someone else? In fantasy, this is exciting. In practice, feelings may arise that you did not expect. That is not a sign that you should not do this, but it is something to be prepared for. Our escorts pay close attention to body language and atmosphere in the room, but they do not have a crystal ball. Open communication is therefore essential, both with each other and with your high class escort.

What do we do if reality turns out to be very different from what we expected? Fantasy and reality rarely align perfectly. Sometimes it is more beautiful and more enjoyable than you imagined. Sometimes it brings up things you did not anticipate. Agree in advance on how you will handle that: how do you want to debrief afterwards, what do you do if one of you wants to stop halfway through, and how do you make sure the evening does not leave unspoken tension behind? Couples who discuss this beforehand go into a booking more relaxed and demonstrably get more out of it. From our side, it is important to know that you can decide to stop the booking or take a step back at any moment. Boundaries agreed upon earlier will not simply be ignored if you change your mind in the heat of the moment; they always require a moment of reflection and consideration. Should your high class escort pick up on signals that something does not feel right for either of you, she will always pause the booking and stop it if necessary.

Are we both genuinely okay with this? Not because the other wants it, not because you decided this impulsively, but because you both truly want it together. A booking as a surprise for your partner, or a scenario involving a staged 'chance encounter that spontaneously turns into a threesome', is not possible at Society Service. Informed consent is an absolute requirement for everyone involved, including the escort. If either of you has doubts, that is the only reason you need to wait a little longer. A good experience starts with an unreserved yes from both of you.

Questions couples often ask our high class escort service

Does Society Service operate fully legally, and how is that arranged? Yes. Sex work is legal in the Netherlands and we hold a licence that permits the operation of an escort service. We work exclusively with Dutch high class escorts aged 21 and over who do this work entirely voluntarily and without any form of coercion. Discretion is not a marketing term for us; it is a way of working. Both your details and those of the escort are treated with complete confidentiality at all times. Our high class escort service has been operating for 20+ years. We have built up a considerable track record that you can rely on.

Are all high class escorts suitable for couple bookings? No, and that is intentional. The escorts available for couple bookings are bisexual, experienced in bisexual intimacy and have a genuine affinity for this dynamic. Our escorts visibly enjoy being part of such an evening, and you will notice that.

How do we choose the right high class escort for us as a couple? In every escort's profile you can see whether she is available for couples. You can also filter on this in the escort overview and read more on our service page about escorts for couples. Look beyond a profile that you both find attractive in terms of appearance. A good match for a couple is also about character. Read the descriptions together and discuss what appeals to both of you. We offer various matchmaking tools. For a quick match, we recommend the instant match. If you cannot decide or simply want to be sure of a good match, we recommend our bespoke matchmaking service. You tell us what you are looking for and we help you find who suits you best.

Can we see photos with faces in advance? Only prior to placing a booking can you request a Sneak Preview to see photos with faces of our escorts. This requires a deposit via bank transfer. There is no option to receive additional or individual photos; such requests will never be accommodated.

How do we best communicate our wishes and boundaries? As specifically as possible, and as early as possible. What you share with us, we pass on to the escort so she can prepare well. Think about how you would like attention to be divided, specific wishes regarding sex, the atmosphere you have in mind, or even practical details such as clothing preferences. Everything can be expressed; nothing is too unusual for us.

What are the rates for a couple booking? The rates for couples are the same as for other clients, with the exception of the couple surcharge of €50 per hour, with a maximum of €250 per 24 hours. In every escort's profile you will find her rates in the rates section. Travel costs and other surcharges may be added where applicable. Surcharges apply to special requests such as BDSM and A-levels (anal sex). Please note that for your first booking with us, a deposit via bank transfer is often required. Your bank statement will show a neutral consultancy name.

Is it possible to skip the getting-to-know-you phase and focus solely on the erotic side? No. This is not possible for any booking at our escort service, and that includes couple bookings. If you are looking for a booking where a woman simply comes over for an erotic threesome, we are not the right escort service for you. A connection is always formed on a social, emotional and intellectual level before an intimate and erotic one.

What booking duration do you recommend? We advise against a two-hour booking. Experience has taught us that this is not enough time to get to know each other, create a good atmosphere and enjoy intimacy as a threesome in a relaxed way. The first part of the evening is always about getting acquainted: a drink, a conversation, letting the nerves settle. That takes time, and rightly so. Rushing is the enemy of a good atmosphere. Only once everyone is relaxed does the evening move forward. Couples who book too little time often say afterwards that it felt like it was just getting started when it was nearly over. More time is almost always a better investment. We recommend a minimum of a standard booking of 3 to 4 hours. The most common couple bookings are, however, standard bookings of 5 to 8 hours, beginning with something nice to eat and drink and allowing you to enjoy each other's company for a full evening.

Where does the booking take place, and what practical things should we keep in mind? You are free to choose the location that works best for you. That could be at your own home or in a hotel. Many couples choose a hotel for the discretion and neutral environment it offers. If so, make sure you book a room large enough for three people, or check with the hotel in advance whether inviting a guest is permitted if you book the room for two. Some hotels have policies on this and it is much easier to arrange this beforehand than to encounter complications on the night. Your own home is of course also an option, as is a luxury holiday home, a private wellness retreat, a tropical island and much more.

Can we meet the escort in advance? Yes, you can invite her for a "Companionship Only" booking where you simply get to know each other on a platonic level. It is not possible to video call or chat with the escort prior to your booking. We are also unable to forward messages to our escorts before or after your booking, as our escorts specifically choose to work through an agency like Society Service so that they can limit contact to the booking itself.

What are the agreements around safe sex? With each other, you may do whatever you are accustomed to. With the escort, fixed agreements apply: condom use is mandatory for penetrative sex and for oral sex performed on a penis. Oral sex performed on a vagina takes place without a condom or other protection; a dental dam can be used upon request. These are the standard agreements at Society Service and are non-negotiable for any of the parties involved. Many couples are used to sex without a condom in their own relationship and find the adjustment takes a little getting used to. Our advice: practise with your partner beforehand, so it does not become a distraction during the booking. The escort brings everything needed for safe sex herself, but you are welcome to bring your own preferred products, provided the packaging is unopened and new.

What are the erotic possibilities during a couple booking? Broader than most couples expect beforehand. Our escorts focus first and foremost on the woman. Her comfort and pleasure are the starting point for the evening. From there, the experience builds, and it can go in many directions. Soft, sensual sex as the three of you slowly get to know each other. Something more adventurous, with toys such as a strap-on, challenging positions or other accessories the escort brings along. A lesbian focus with the man watching. A genuine threesome with attention equally divided. Or a combination that develops naturally as the evening progresses. For couples with a little more experience, even a Pornstar Experience or BDSM preferences are possible. Whatever you have in mind, discuss it in advance. Anything that all three of you enjoy is open for discussion.

Can we as a couple also book a male escort? Yes. While most couple bookings involve a man, a woman and a bisexual female escort, Society Service also offers male escorts. A male escort visiting the couple can be a wonderful option if the woman is curious about an experience with two men, or if the couple is looking for a different dynamic. Please note that erotic contact between the male escort and the male client is only possible with a bisexual gigolo. A heterosexual or heteroflexible male escort will focus his attention on the woman.

Can we take the escort along on a trip or to an event? Yes. Your favourite high class escort can accompany you to, for example, a luxury erotic party or abroad. It is not uncommon for couples who have booked an escort with us during a stay in the Netherlands to later invite a Society Service escort to an international destination. For this, please keep in mind that the booking must last at least one night, from evening through to morning. Multi-day visits to clothing optional adult resorts are also among the possibilities.