Virgin Experience trilogy part 3: after the booking

After the Virgin Experience: what changes after the first time?

This is the third and final article in our trilogy about Society Service's Virgin Experience. In the first blog, we focused primarily on the considerations before booking. In the second, we discussed what happens during the Virgin Experience itself. In this final article, we explore the effects of the Virgin Experience. Of course, someone is no longer a virgin afterwards, but what other changes can it bring?

The Virgin Experience is often a turning point in the way a client views themselves, intimacy and dating. On a practical level, they are no longer a virgin, which for some feels like a relief, for others a proud milestone, and for others still like a weight lifted from their shoulders. One client wrote afterwards: “I hoped this booking would help accelerate my social development, but I think it did far more than that. It truly set something in motion. I genuinely feel like a different person than I was before.” We could not have put it better ourselves.

The first reaction after the Virgin Experience

During a Virgin Experience, much more often happens than simply having sex for the first time. Some clients also kiss someone for the first time, have never been naked with another person before or have never spent a night with someone. It is therefore perfectly natural if it takes some time afterwards for everything to sink in. One client wrote: “Apologies for my late reply. I needed a few days to process the experience, everything that happened, how it felt and what it has done for me.”

That may sound more intense than it needs to, because often that processing mainly consists of continuing to enjoy the memories. One client wrote: “I have been thoroughly enjoying the memories over the past few days, and actually still am. I am very happy that I was able to share this experience with her. It has definitely left me wanting more.” Beforehand, the focus is mainly on what feels daunting or what might go wrong. Afterwards, there is room to realise what actually went well.

More than just a first sexual experience

Clients usually book the Virgin Experience with one clear goal: to finally have sex for the first time. Afterwards, that first time often turns out to represent much more. One client wrote: “She made me realise that the work required to find genuine love will be worth it. There is still a lot I need to work on, but it all feels much easier now. I know which direction I want to take.” Another client described it more practically: “It feels as though I am finally no longer starting from behind all the time.”

Many clients struggle with the same questions for years. When do I tell someone that I am still a virgin? What if I do not know what to do? And what if they reject me because of it? One client wrote afterwards: “The Virgin Experience taught me that I can connect with an attractive woman and that sex is not something to fear, but something to enjoy. I look forward to discovering the rest with a future partner.” Nobody suddenly becomes Casanova after a single booking, but a major barrier has been removed.

Sometimes the effect is visible almost immediately. A client who had never dared to ask someone out before his booking told us a few days later: “You can tell her that I recently asked someone out and that we are going on a date this weekend. I would never have done this without the experience.” A date can still feel nerve-racking and rejection remains a possibility. The difference, however, is that the client no longer rejects himself in advance on the other person's behalf.

A more realistic view of intimacy

For many inexperienced clients, pornography has been their main sexual frame of reference for years, which can create a highly distorted view of intimacy and what good sex looks like. It is not unusual for clients with no sexual experience at all to immediately ask about extremes such as BDSM, extreme fetishes or anal sex, and to assume that hair pulling, choking and spanking are standard parts of sex.

Clients often discover that intimacy does not have to be hard or rough, but can also be romantic, sensual and intimate. One client openly explained: “To be honest, I watched a great deal of pornography, and sex is portrayed as something very superficial in it. I thought that was normal and that it was expected of me. I noticed that my preferences became increasingly extreme and that the pornography I watched became progressively rougher. During the Virgin Experience, the sex was actually very romantic, sensual and gentle. I learned how to pleasure my partner and developed a completely different view of intimacy as a result. I am very glad that we were able to discuss this openly and that I did not have to feel ashamed of anything. My future partner will probably be grateful to her.” Another client wrote to the escort after his booking: “You taught me so much about intimacy and sex that I can build on for the rest of my life. I will be eternally grateful to you for that.”

Many clients want to continue the experience

For some clients, the Virgin Experience is deliberately a one-off booking. Their main aim was to overcome a major hurdle and continue independently afterwards. For many others, the first experience instead sparks their curiosity. One client wrote: “My only regret is that I did not book an overnight stay, because as soon as she left, I was already wondering when I could see her again.” Another client booked again the very next day. He described the second meeting as a natural continuation of the first booking, which helped him answer his remaining questions and bring the experience to a satisfying conclusion.

Booking again usually does not mean that the first time was unsuccessful or insufficient. Precisely because the greatest tension has disappeared, there is room to enjoy the experience more freely and explore further. Moreover, there is far more to learn about intimacy than can fit into a single evening. There is also another simple reason: a successful booking with a high-class escort is simply incredibly enjoyable.

The long-term effects

The effects of a Virgin Experience sometimes only become visible much later. Every year, we receive messages from people who used the service a long time ago. One tells us that he is now in a happy relationship, while another explains that dating became easier. Sometimes a former client writes to say that he is getting married and does not believe he would ever have reached that point without the first experience.

Of course, the client ultimately achieved that himself. We did not arrange the dates, face the rejections or build the relationship. The Virgin Experience can, however, be the moment when someone stops excluding themselves from the possibility of intimacy. That may be the most important change after the first time: not merely that someone is no longer a virgin, but that they no longer believe intimacy is reserved exclusively for other people.