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The Virgin Experience from an escort’s perspective

Having sex for the first time. Those words alone can be enough to make someone feel slightly nervous. While one person may mainly feel curious, another may already have played out three hundred scenarios in his mind, at least two hundred of which seem to come straight from porn. And that is exactly where the charm of the Virgin Experience begins for many escorts: it is exciting, vulnerable, sometimes a little awkward, but often also incredibly sweet, special and surprisingly relaxed.

When we ask Vivienne, Leah and Valerie how they experience the Virgin Experience, all three of them start laughing. Not because they do not take the subject seriously. Quite the opposite. Precisely because in practice, it is often far more human and light-hearted than clients expect beforehand. “What I always find so beautiful,” Vivienne says, “is that someone often arrives with the idea that this has to be an enormous moment. And of course, it is. But at the same time, it usually starts with a cup of tea, a glass of wine, a little conversation and discovering that I am also just a woman. Not an examination committee.”

Valerie immediately nods. “Yes, I recognise that so much. Some clients seem to expect some kind of unreachable glamour puss floating into the room. And then there I am, just sitting opposite them as a normal, warm, sociable girl. You can almost literally see the tension drop from their shoulders. They think: oh, so I do not have to be James Bond here straight away.” Leah laughs. “Luckily not. And let’s be honest: James Bond probably would not necessarily be the best lover for a first time either.”

According to the three escorts, that ability to put things into perspective is important. A first sexual experience does not have to be perfect, spectacular or cinematic. In fact, that usually does not help at all. What does help is an atmosphere in which someone feels safe enough to be nervous, to ask questions and, every now and then, to simply laugh at himself.

“Humour is really underrated,” Valerie says. “If someone arrives trembling like a leaf, I am not going to make it heavier by saying: this is a very important life moment. That only makes it bigger. I want someone to think: okay, this is exciting, but it is also just pleasant and human.”

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Vivienne sees it the same way. “For me, the beauty of these bookings lies in the care that goes into them. Many clients have already been in contact with Marike beforehand. They have received advice about which escort suits them, what booking duration makes sense and what kind of setting may feel comfortable. That may sound practical, but it really makes a difference. When the match is right, a lot of the tension already disappears.”

Valerie adds: “And you notice that clients often prepare well. They have read the website, looked up tips, sometimes even watched tutorials about sex or how a woman’s body works. I actually find that very sweet. Sometimes they already know more in theory than they dare to admit, but it still has to move from the head into the body.”

“Yes,” Leah says, “and sometimes there is also some theory where I think: okay, you clearly got that from a very specific corner of the internet. What fascinates me is how someone without experience looks at sex. Fantasy can be beautiful, but porn can also make the picture a little… enthusiastic. Then someone may think sex is mainly supposed to be hard, wild and very dramatic. While good sex usually starts with connection. Looking at each other. Laughing. Kissing. Touching. Feeling whether someone relaxes.”

She grins. “I have once experienced someone pulling my hair or giving me a slap on the bum during a first time. And do not get me wrong, I am really not made of sugar. But I did think: let’s start at the beginning, gentlemen. First learn to ride a bike, then the Tour de France.”

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That is exactly what the Virgin Experience is about according to the escorts: not just “the act” itself, but learning to understand intimacy. What feels good? How do you build tension? How do you notice whether the other person is enjoying herself? How do you stay present instead of disappearing into your head? “A first time can look very different for everyone,” Vivienne says. “Sometimes someone mainly wants a romantic experience. Dinner together, conversation, a natural transition into intimacy. Then I gently take the lead and make sure nothing feels forced. With another client, a more structured approach works better. Then I explain what we are doing, what he can pay attention to and how he can feel whether something is pleasant. That may sound like instruction, but when it is done well, it remains warm and sensual.”

Valerie recognises this. “I do not call it sex education, because then it sounds as if I am standing next to the bed with a whiteboard. But I do explain things. In a relaxed way. This feels good, this can be softer, this does not need to be so hard, this can actually be a little more. Sometimes I also literally explain how the body works. There is no need for anyone to be ashamed of that. Nobody is born with a manual.”

Leah says: “And honestly, that educational part is exactly what I enjoy. Sex is a skill. You learn by feeling, trying and tuning in to each other. Not by thinking you have to know everything straight away. Sometimes penetration does not happen, for example, or someone does not get an erection. Of course that can feel very disappointing for the client, because he thinks: now I still have not really lost my virginity. But it is not that black and white. If you have kissed, touched, discovered, laughed, enjoyed yourself and learned something about yourself, that is also a first sexual experience. And often a much better one than a forced attempt to tick a box at all costs.”

For Valerie, the longer bookings, and especially overnight bookings, are ideal for this service. “Then there is no clock breathing down your neck. You can go out for dinner together, get used to each other calmly, maybe flirt a little, maybe laugh awkwardly at first. That is part of it. After that, the transition into intimacy feels much more natural. And the most beautiful part is often the morning after. After breakfast in bed, we sometimes go over it all once more, but then someone is already so much freer. You can really see it: he is less in his head, he dares more, he feels more. That is wonderful to experience.”

A first sexual experience with guidance, trust and pleasure

Vivienne also finds that one of the most special aspects. “You see someone change during such a booking. Not in an exaggerated way, as if a completely new man walks out the door. But subtly. Someone arrives with tension and leaves with calm. Sometimes with a soft kind of pride. As if he thinks: this was exciting, but I could do it. I was allowed to be myself. I find that very beautiful.” Leah nods. “And sometimes someone comes back a few more times afterwards. Not because the first time was not good enough, but precisely because he realises: hey, I can explore this further. Then it becomes more playful. You can try more. But the foundation remains the same: first trust, first connection, first pleasure.”

What the three escorts mainly want to say is that clients do not need to pretend to be more experienced than they are. Experience is not an entry requirement. Neither is self-confidence. An open attitude, good personal care and respect are far more important. “Do not arrive with the idea that you have to perform,” Valerie says. “That does not make anyone more attractive in bed. Just come as yourself. Nerves are allowed. Questions are allowed. Awkwardness is allowed too. Often, that is exactly what makes it disarming.”

Vivienne smiles. “I think many clients are afraid of doing something wrong. But if you are present with attention, listen properly and are honest about what you find exciting, a lot is already right.” Leah sums it up in her own way: “And leave your porn ego at home. Bring your curiosity. We can do much more with that.”

Ultimately, the Virgin Experience is not a performance in which someone suddenly has to play the experienced lover. It is a first introduction to intimacy, guided by someone who brings patience, experience and pleasure. Sometimes romantic and gentle. Sometimes educational and practical. Sometimes a little giggly. Often more nerve-racking beforehand than during the moment itself. And perhaps that is exactly why these bookings are so special for escorts. Not because everything goes perfectly, but because it is real. Because someone dares to surrender to something new. Because tension turns into trust. And because a first time, when guided well, is not just something to get over with, but something to look back on with warmth.